There is no set number of mediation sessions — it depends on the complexity of your situation and how both people engage. As a general guide, most cases are resolved within two to six joint sessions, spread over a few months.

How long each session lasts

A standard joint mediation session lasts around one to one and a half hours. The first session is sometimes slightly longer, as the mediator sets ground rules and takes some background from both people. The MIAM — the individual meeting that comes first — usually lasts 45 to 60 minutes and is separate from the joint-session count. Sessions are typically held every two to four weeks, giving time in between to gather information and consider proposals.

What affects the number of sessions

Several things influence how many sessions you will need. The number of issues matters — a case covering both children and finances usually takes longer than a single issue. So does the level of disagreement: the more entrenched the positions, the more time is needed to explore options. Financial cases depend on full disclosure, so delays in obtaining documents such as pension valuations can extend the timeline. The single biggest factor, though, is engagement — consistent, good-faith participation from both people is what resolves matters quickly.

What happens between sessions

Much of the progress in mediation happens between sessions. In that time, both people may gather financial documents, reflect on the proposals discussed, take independent legal advice on the options, and think about where they can be flexible. Many mediators send a short summary after each session confirming what was discussed and what each person agreed to do next — which keeps momentum going.

Planning and budgeting

Because most mediators charge per session, knowing the likely commitment helps you budget and stay focused. At Digital MIAM, joint mediation is charged from £130 per hour per person, with simpler cases needing fewer sessions and complex financial matters needing more. Every mediation package includes a free three-month post check-in.

Getting started

The first commitment is the MIAM — the individual first meeting — which lasts around 45 to 60 minutes and is a separate step from joint sessions. Our online MIAMs start at £95 with FMC-registered mediators. It is the sensible place to start, and you can book yours online today.