The words "MIAM" and "mediation" are often used together, which makes them easy to confuse. They are related but different things. Understanding the distinction helps you know exactly what you are committing to when you book.

At a glance

A MIAM is an initial information and assessment meeting. It explains mediation, assesses whether it is suitable, is usually a single meeting, and may be required before court. Mediation is the ongoing process that may follow. It focuses on resolving the issues, explores agreements, can take one or more sessions, and is entirely voluntary.

What a MIAM is

A MIAM (Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting) is a one-to-one meeting with a qualified mediator. Its job is to explain what mediation is, assess whether it might be suitable for you, and discuss other options if it is not. You attend individually, and at the end you receive your MIAM certificate for court.

What family mediation is

Family mediation is a process in which a neutral mediator helps both people discuss and agree arrangements about children, finances, or other family matters. The mediator does not take sides, make decisions, or give legal advice. Mediation only goes ahead if both people agree to take part.

How they fit together

The MIAM is the gateway into mediation. During your MIAM, the mediator explains mediation, considers whether it could work, and discusses whether it could proceed. If mediation is suitable and both people agree, sessions are arranged afterwards. If it is not, you still receive your certificate and can apply to court.

Common misunderstandings

• "A MIAM means I must mediate." It does not. A MIAM is an information meeting; the decision to proceed is entirely yours.
  

• "Mediation replaces court." Mediation is an alternative to court, but it does not replace it in every case — some situations still need a court decision.
  

• "The mediator decides the outcome." The mediator is neutral and makes no decisions. Any agreement is reached by the people taking part.
  

• "A MIAM is just a formality." Although it may be required before court, a MIAM also gives you genuinely useful information and can be the first step towards resolving matters without a judge.
  

Which do you need?

Most people start with a MIAM to understand their options, with mediation following only if it is suitable and both people want to proceed. Booking a MIAM is low-commitment: it clarifies your path without locking you into anything. Our online MIAMs start at £95 and are held by FMC-registered mediators, with a Fast Track option typically available the same day.