Frequently Asked Questions
Child & Parenting
Can mediation help with child arrangements?
Yes. Mediation is widely used to help separating parents agree on child arrangements, including where children will live, how much time they spend with each parent, holiday arrangements, and schooling decisions. A mediator helps parents focus on the children's needs and communicate more constructively. Many parents find that reaching their own agreement through mediation produces more flexible, lasting arrangements than those imposed by a court following contested proceedings.
Do children attend mediation sessions?
No. Children do not attend standard mediation sessions between parents. If child-inclusive mediation is used, a specially trained mediator meets the child separately — not in the joint sessions. This is entirely optional and only appropriate for children who are old enough and willing to participate. The purpose is to help parents understand their children's feelings, not to involve children in adult decision-making or to place them in a difficult position between their parents.
What if we can't agree about children?
If mediation is unable to help you reach agreement about child arrangements, the mediator will confirm this and you can apply to the family court for a child arrangements order. Before making your application, you will need to have attended a MIAM. The court will consider what arrangement is in the best interests of the children. CAFCASS (the Children and Family Court Advisory and Support Service) may be asked to provide a report in more complex or contested cases.
What is a parenting plan?
A parenting plan is a written record of the arrangements you and your co-parent have agreed for your children following separation. It can cover where children live, contact arrangements, holiday and special occasion arrangements, how you will communicate as parents, and how you will handle future disagreements. Parenting plans are not automatically legally binding, but they provide a clear agreed reference point. They are often produced as part of the mediation process, though they can also be created independently.
What is child-inclusive mediation?
Child-inclusive mediation is a form of family mediation in which children are given the opportunity to have their voice heard during the process, if they wish to and are considered old enough. A specially trained mediator meets with the child separately and, with their permission, feeds their views back to the parents. It is entirely voluntary for the child and is not about putting them in the middle — it is about ensuring their perspective is considered in decisions that affect them.
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